What to "decorate" my daddy's grave site with?

Hi All. I recently lost my father and we haven't planted anything or brought anything to his grave yet because it was all covered with snow, but now that the snow is gone, I want to plant some flowers and possible get a bench or something. I've never done anything like this and its super hard for me and my mom and siblings. Anyone have any suggestions? Thanks in advance!

What to "decorate" my daddy's grave site with?
We planted a pine tree at my dads site. his headstone has a vase for flowers, but i am sure its okay to plant something
Reply:Think about your Dad and what his likes and dislikes were. Did he like roses, or something more colorful like wild flowers? What was his favorite color? Just think along those lines and what your Dad found peaceful! Peace Lilies are always pretty. As far as a bench goes...just be sure to check with the cemetary on their guidelines...and then, again, consider his taste....there are concrete benches...wooden park style benches...I've even seen large hand carved stumps made to sit on..or a hand carved chair. My uncle died last fall and was a farmer...his wife and kids just put a small (lawn ornament size) John Deere tractor at his grave site and a tractor tire that they laid flat on the ground to use as a planter and planted a beautiful yellow rose bush in it! It's all about focusing on him..and something that will portray who he was.
Reply:Hi. My condolences on the loss of your Father. Both of my parents passed on some year's ago and my sister and myself do most of the up keep on their gravesites. I guess it just came naturally to us to put things there that they enjoyed in life. My father loved his dogs and so we have small and large dog figurines and my Mother loved yellow roses so we always have those on her site, besides those we always put things for the holidays and in a few weeks we'll be putting a bench in also. Believe me nothing is off limits when it comes to putting things on your loved ones grave, there's a site that's close to my parents and someone always leaves a hershey bar and a coke, must have been a favorite of the person...=) So put some of your Father's favorite things there, along with some beautiful flower's and the bench it will give you some place to sit if you want to visit and talk with him...=)
Reply:I also lost my dad when I was a teenager. I will be praying for your family to have peace, and I am so so sorry you are going through a terrible loss.





Take the advice of the person who said to inquire about cemetary rules..


As far as plants, you may want to consider annuals- plants that return every spring on their own- and also plants that do well in your local area and don't need too much maintenence. Your local nursery (not a hardware store giant) will know what will grow and thrive the best.





If you want something permanent, maybe consider planting a tree in your dad's honor- obviously, most cemetaries won't allow that, but you can plant it somewhere you can watch it mature, and when you have children of your own someday, they will be able to see a magnificant tree and hear stories about their grandpa.





God bless your family and your belated father-
Reply:I guess first you should check with the cemetary for the rules on planting things...♥ did he have a favorite flower? or plant flowers that were his favorite color... a bench would be very nice...♥
Reply:First, check with the cemetary to see what their policy is. Some places will not allow you to physically plant flowers or have a bench. Other places may have guidelines you must follow on what can be placed on the grave site and when it can be placed there. I am sorry for your loss. Take care.
Reply:Well start with something that means something to you or your family. If your parents had a favorite flower,etc. If nothing there then you have to consider the light. If it's full light think about something like lilac (purple,white or blue) or forsythia (yellow or white). The bloom early spring and stay green through the fall. Both do well w/ or w/o care taking (pruning, fertilizing). That way you could plant something else maybe annuals so you can change it up and requires spending some time (digging, planting, weeding, etc.) there which seems to be a motive for you. It's a very nice thought and will provide you and your family some solace to know that he's thought of often. Good luck to you.

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